June 14, 2011 at 2:47 pm · Reply
Lest people still don’t get it, let’s drive the nail further in: this isn’t a semantic issue about what ‘Try’ means. TR obviously caught on the woman’s victim mentality and called her attention to it. It wouldn’t be appropriate in every situation, which is the challenge of all advice columns: getting people to know if the advice was relevant to them.

I think consolation is a lot like praise–it only works if someone else is giving it to you. Just as self-praise is obnoxious, so self-consolation can also be a form of excuse (“It’s not my fault, I can’t help the situation cos I’VE TRIED.”)

June 14, 2011 at 2:52 pm · Reply
Well said.

June 14, 2011 at 3:46 pm · Reply
“Losers always whine about doing their “best.” Winners go home and fuck the prom queen” (Sean Connery).

June 15, 2011 at 6:25 am · Reply
I was watching this clip and reminded me a lot your blog.
It’s a brasilian show, translated in English is “Kiss on the mouth or slap in the face”.
Guys saying pickup lines, plowing and giving compliments in the beaches of Brasil! These guys don’t try, there is no failure, it’s just a slap or a kiss.

June 15, 2011 at 6:25 am · Reply
You can check it here

June 15, 2011 at 9:35 pm · Reply
It’s little things like this that make me actually appreciate NLP. For anyone interested in other self-talk traps “Great Ways to Sabotage a Good Conversation” is a good book for about 10 bucks that has some intriguing examples.
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