Is chastity overrated?
What dominant dating means to me
Trust is what makes my relationship so special
What women need to know about men
Don't wait too long to tell her
My Damaged Heart
Can physical chastisement cure bad habits?
PUT women in their place
Trials and errors – appeasement for anger
And Adam knew his wife

That said, there are times when I ask for a spanking because I need it but haven't done anything to be punished for. Sometimes I need the release of a good cry without emotional ties. Sometimes it is because I or he need the connection (though a good bondage session reconnects very well, too). We also do erotic spanking and some pretty extreme sexual control, though not to the point of humiliation. All these things are about connection, but our discipline/punishment type spankings have another purpose that is just as important.

And yes, his control in our day to day living is real. I would not think to disobey him without expecting consequences. Regardless of the laws of our country and society, my disposition and his make his control very real.

My point here is that a DD/Taken In Hand style relationship can be very much about behavior modification. That is, by definition, what discipline means, after all.

One other thing, I think the M/f emphasis may be part and parcel of the Taken In Hand website and not so much DD. I am not sure when posters say "Taken In Hand" if they mean this site specifically or DD in general. I am acquainted with many people on line who practice F/m type DD and have a Female HOH. Great discussion.

Otter*